Despite the common beliefs, gradually developing crisis associated with a temporal loss of sexual desire in one of the partners is rather a natural phase of long-term relationships than a rare exception. Quite often partners experience a prominent need to refrain from intimacy: this may happen because of abnormally high stresses, psychological discomfort, loss of confidence in the partner’s love and trustworthiness, lack of time for normal communication and harmonious development of one’s sexual desires. The reasons behind this phase are numerous and differ from couple to couple.
However, the problem should be regarded as extremely serious if the said condition continues for a prolonged period. A surprisingly large number of couples cannot deal with such troubles – according to the statistical data, in more than 15% of cases married couples lead a sexless life. Taking into account the fact that in the UK alone the divorce rate reaches 53%, while the US and Canada demonstrate 49% and 45% respectively, it is obvious that far too many men and women are unable to resolve the problems ruining their relationships on their own. Of course, the problems associated with the lack of desire significantly contribute to the high divorce rates.
Effective approaches to attracting her attention
Naturally, there is no such thing as a universal recipe on invoking passion in both partners – different couples require varied approaches. Nonetheless, psychologists recommend several simple approaches that could make a difference even in the most neglected cases:
- Visit certified psychotherapist. Do not rely on advice from friends – since each individual makes judgments only based on individual experience even those strategies that work for someone may be useless or even damaging in your specific case.
- Stay sincere. Most troubles in the sexual sphere develop because of the lack of mutual trust. Those able to speak openly about their desires and ideas rarely suffer from loss of intimacy even in long-term relationships.
- Change your lifestyle. Introducing pleasurable changes in your mutual relationships creates a sympathetic atmosphere and makes it possible to avoid mundane stresses.
